Cut the Bullsh*t: Stop Rationalizing and Start Reflecting

Meg Kearney (00:00)
So anyways, this weekend it got me thinking about how this feeling of discomfort must be here more often than I recognize and

I am not okay with the way our society is and I think it's so important to make

Commitments to yourself and keep them so some example of this that I noticed recently It would have been so easy for me to go on this retreat and Tell myself. I'm not gonna use my phone all weekend and then I Mean I was there by myself. I had nobody to Hold me accountable. It was just me

and nobody else would have cared if I'd used my phone. However, that's not the point. The point is that I made a commitment to myself. I had a challenge for myself that I wanted to complete. And if I had just succumbed to this discomfort and used my phone, I wouldn't have gained this

incredibly valuable knowledge that I now have of the need to foster a deeper relationship with myself where I can feel safe and feel comfortable with myself no matter what the situation is, no matter where I am. something that might apply, which I see a lot and I have had friends that

do this as well and as somebody who has been alcohol free for over two years now it's been quite a while and I see this happen a lot when people do dry January and I have some friends and I've seen people who say they're going to do the dry January and then next thing you know

there's an asterisk. Well, I'm gonna allow myself to do this and have this drink for this certain occasion and

I understand how addictive these substances are. understand how addictive our phones are. And with that being said, you are shortchanging yourself and this knowledge that you can gain for yourself.

you are, you are succumbing to the discomfort. And that discomfort doesn't go away just because you have the drink or just because you pick up your phone and scroll on Instagram or because you smoke a joint. I don't know, I don't smoke weed, but.

It's like our culture has become so obsessed with numbing out and binging on whatever your substance of choice is. And I just see the way people rationalize their use of this, whatever your substance of choice may be. And honestly, it's not okay. It's not okay that we're doing this. And I'm not...

trying to say this from a judgmental place because like I said, I do it too. It can be with things that even seem like they're beneficial. For example, I read a lot and yeah, that's not hurting anyone. It's not necessarily hurting me. However, when I look at the fact of using reading as a distraction,

and as a way to avoid living my current life, I can see how something I'm doing, I can rationalize to avoid looking at what I'm avoiding. So, yeah, I think.

I think I'm just so tired of all of us just rationalizing these shit ways of being. And I don't think it's funny. I don't think, ha ha, whatever, I'm just addicted to my phone, or ha ha, whatever, like I just like to drink a little too much, or like it's not okay, it's not normal, it's not funny. And...

It's impacting you. It's impacting your life. It's impacting the people around you. It's impacting the quality of your relationship with others because you have no relationship with yourself. And so at the end of the day,

I would just encourage people, if you find yourself rationalizing behavior, take a second and think about that rationalization and think about the hold that whatever it is has on you, that it's requiring you to rationalize why you're doing it. Because if something is aligned with your soul and if something is

calling to you authentically and you feel so secure in doing something, you will never feel the need to rationalize it. So.

Yeah, I didn't really know where this was gonna go until I got on here and I'm sure there are ways that I could say these things more eloquently. However, in the spirit of doing things messy, I'm just going to release this and if you have a problem with anything I said, I would love to open it up to conversation. You can...

Instagram DM me that's probably the easiest way to converse with me or you can send me an email at my email address which is root to awaken at gmail.com but yeah I just really

And I would say if you start to rationalize something, check in with yourself and see if you can go without doing whatever it is that you're rationalizing because Mark Groves talks about this concept a lot of if you don't have access to your choice,

when you're in a relationship with something. If you don't have the ability to say no to something, then you are choiceless in that relationship and it's not a healthy relationship. And I'm paraphrasing, he says things a lot more eloquently. But yeah, in this year, I just want us to just cut the bullshit.

Cut the bullshit. I don't wanna be...

spewing bullshit into the universe. I don't want people to be spewing their bullshit back to me and we all do it so Thanks for listening and If this resonates with you great if it doesn't resonate with you move it along it doesn't have to and Yeah, much love to you all and I hope to see you back here next week